One day you'll give a deep breath and the hole that was there no longer exists... and the healing starts after this sad milestone - once that the world completed his route over everything you used to share yearly (birthdays, anniversaries, Summers, first Watermelon slice of the year, his healing hand when you were feeling poor) the next route won't be that hurtful and the following will carry the warmth of the memory... Trust and See. Take Care, Teresa
My thoughts are with you, Tina. The first anniversary is so painful, but as the years pass it will become more of an ache than a wrenching pain.
It has been 15 years since my mother passed (I was 26), and I still miss her terribly every day. Something a former coworker said in those first months has stuck with me always; At first the loss is a jagged, gaping hole in your heart. Over time the edges will become smoother, but the hole will always be there.
It's been two and a half months since my mom died, and almost 11 years since I lost my dad, but reading your blog is a comfort. Hopefully it helps to know that others share your experience -- and appreciate your words.
It will be a year and a half for my Dad this Tuesday the 24th. I remember crying myself to sleep at night when I was little, imagining the death of my parents, and waking up the next morning realizing how foolish I was to worry about something so many years in the future. You can never prepare yourself for the death of a parent...Mom, my husband, and I miss him all the time...we were a foursome that loved our outings (lunch, dinner, drives), and playing cards - we have so many lovely memories...it's just not the same without him...we miss him so much! God bless you as remember all your wonderful times together, and your heart breaks as you miss him.
Sorry for your loss. I lost my father when I was thirteen and agree some hurts never go away but they become bearable. What a beautiful and touching tribute to your father.
Hi, I just stumbled upon your blog and read this post and the tribute to your dad. I lost my father a couple of years ago and though it's gotten easier, I still find myself holding back tears (or not) when certain memories arise. Jennifer's co-worker is right, the hole will always be there.
I hope that knowing other people can empathize with your loss helps you, because I know it does for me. Reading your post and the kind comments from others is comforting.
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Losing a parent is always heartbreaking, whether it's been a year or a day. I'm so sorry for your loss. xx
So sorry. The hole in our heart stays there. We just eventually learn how to find joy again in spite of it.
Cynthia
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I will be thinking of you today. My mother died five months ago today. I hope that this coming year will be easier for you.
Be kind to yourself Today sending Hugs from Australia
Hugs and blessings.
Cassie
awww, peace to you and a warm deep smile from loving times shared. absence hurts.
My thoughts are with you.
My Graddad passed away 3 years ago, he was like a father to me, and it will get easier... I promise.
The most important thing to keep him 'living' is in your thoughts.
Niki @ http://little-quaint-moments-and-memories.blogspot.com/
xx
I do remember the day as well, Tina.
Cherish the wonderful memories always~
xo*
I lost my dad a year ago and feels like im never gonna heal...
Thoughts are with you love. xo
Oh yes, they heal.
One day you'll give a deep breath and the hole that was there no longer exists... and the healing starts after this sad milestone - once that the world completed his route over everything you used to share yearly (birthdays, anniversaries, Summers, first Watermelon slice of the year, his healing hand when you were feeling poor) the next route won't be that hurtful and the following will carry the warmth of the memory...
Trust and See.
Take Care,
Teresa
I'm sorry for such a huge loss. My heart goes out to you and I wish you peace on this sad day. xx
My thoughts are with you, Tina. The first anniversary is so painful, but as the years pass it will become more of an ache than a wrenching pain.
It has been 15 years since my mother passed (I was 26), and I still miss her terribly every day. Something a former coworker said in those first months has stuck with me always; At first the loss is a jagged, gaping hole in your heart. Over time the edges will become smoother, but the hole will always be there.
Love and peace to you :)
((hugs)) I hope your memories are stronger than your pain.
Thoughts with you today.x.
Sending you much love. Anniversaries especially the first one is so hard.
Bless you heart. My heart goes out to you!
It's been two and a half months since my mom died, and almost 11 years since I lost my dad, but reading your blog is a comfort. Hopefully it helps to know that others share your experience -- and appreciate your words.
I'm so sorry. I know that pain never completely fades
The first year is the very worst. My Dad has been gone 10 years now and the hurt and pain is gone, though the missing is always there.
It will be a year and a half for my Dad this Tuesday the 24th. I remember crying myself to sleep at night when I was little, imagining the death of my parents, and waking up the next morning realizing how foolish I was to worry about something so many years in the future. You can never prepare yourself for the death of a parent...Mom, my husband, and I miss him all the time...we were a foursome that loved our outings (lunch, dinner, drives), and playing cards - we have so many lovely memories...it's just not the same without him...we miss him so much! God bless you as remember all your wonderful times together, and your heart breaks as you miss him.
It's been 4 years since my dad died, and I agree, some hurts never heal.
I've been away from blogging for a few days. I'm so sorry for the late comment. My dad passed when I was 20. I miss him every day.
Sending you love.
blessings to you both.
Sorry for your loss. I lost my father when I was thirteen and agree some hurts never go away but they become bearable. What a beautiful and touching tribute to your father.
Hi, I just stumbled upon your blog and read this post and the tribute to your dad. I lost my father a couple of years ago and though it's gotten easier, I still find myself holding back tears (or not) when certain memories arise. Jennifer's co-worker is right, the hole will always be there.
I hope that knowing other people can empathize with your loss helps you, because I know it does for me. Reading your post and the kind comments from others is comforting.
All the best,
Finley
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